Getting Furiously Angry At Your Child - How Can You Handle It Differently?
As it is said again and again, patience is the key to any parenting. Take a deep breath and try to assess the situation- why and how it happened. If needed, for a few minutes pull yourself out of the situation and have a 'me' time. Next, the best thing to do is to try and understand the child’s point of view. We all make mistakes. How would we feel if we are spanked and yelled at because of our mistakes? This will make your thought process much more logical and reasonable, which will help you address the situation well.
Try to completely ignore what he did, and emphasize more on the good and the positives he has. Praise and appreciation work wonders with children. For example: Isn't Ryan a great guy, but why is he talking like this? Isn't Romi’s smile the cutest in our home, but why such a frown on her face today? These kinds of words will ease the child and the environment. Lastly, talk to him patiently. Do not yell, instead ask him and make him understand what he is doing is not the right thing to do. Such little steps will certainly make your parenting better and beautiful. Getting angry is a normal emotion, but it gets abnormal when we react negatively. Have a cool mind and control the situation- it is good for you, your child and the whole home environment.