Teach Your Kid How To Be A Sport By Being One Yourself
A little disappointment can actually benefit your child, as long as you teach him how to bounce back from it and cope with failure. You can’t be there to soothe him every time he feels left out or falls short at a task, so prepare your child to manage setbacks. Be your child’s guide not his savior. If your child thinks winning matters too much to you, he will find it harder to lose. Failures help your child to learn how to deal with adversity. Shielding or preventing your kid from failure because you don’t want him to be disappointed is of new use because it takes away the ability for a parent to help a child through difficulty.
1. Think about how your actions and what you say affect your child. Show your child how to be a 'good sport' by the way you cope with losing, and by what you say to others when they lose. Your child watches you like a hawk, so it is important to handle your own disappointments with grace. If you panic every time you misplace your cell phone or curse when you stain a shirt, then you are not demonstrating healthy coping skills.
2. Encourage him to try out new things and make a point of introducing your child to new things while making it clear that he should not feel the need to smash any world records(at least not right away).
3. Rather than talking about exciting plans as guarantees, treat them as mere possibilities. Then if things don’t work out in the end, you’ve cushioned the blow and reinforced the lesson that minor disappointments are a part of life.
4. Use phrases that will help your child cope with his own shortcomings, such as, “I’ll try harder next time” or I’ve done it once; I can do it once again.”
5. Take responsibility when you goof because it shows that adults make mistakes too and own up to them.