Dealing With Your Little One's Possessiveness
- At this stage, your child is very possessive about her things. Empathy is still rarely understood and you may find her not taking turns and engaging in cooperative play.
- Respect your child’s possessive attitude. Accept it while also finding ways to ease her into sharing process. For instance, when you know about a play date, plan in advance. Ask her which toys she does not want to share with her friend and which she is ready to. Keep the former toys away.
- Practice sharing at home. For instance, give her a plate of cookies and ask her to give one cookie to every family member. Praise her as she does it.
- If her friend holds her toy, tell her she is just playing with it and will give back. She is not taking it home. Meanwhile, if she throws a tantrum, try to divert her attention. You can also tell your friend to get some of her daughter’s toys so that both can play with each other’s toys. If both want the same toy, set a timer. Both will take turns and play with the toy for two minutes each.
- Read books to her that talk about sharing, taking turns and engaging in cooperative play.